I stayed the night with a Malayali family in Kerala - not from the forest quarters - a lady living with her daughters. There's was a small little brick house, unplastered. A neat little aangan and a garden - banana trees and rose bushes. In just a few minutes, the entire village seemed to gather there - to take a look at the spectacle that I was - sweaty, dirty, tired, in shirt, trousers, cap and a backpack. All the ladies were related to each other - aunties, cousins, nieces, in-laws and so on. I was bombarded with curious questions. I was tired and I wanted to take a bath but I enjoyed their simple curiosity and in a mix of broken Kannada, English and Hindi with lots of gestures I tried to answer their questions - my name, where did I come from, what did I do, was I married, did I have children, what does my husband do, when am I going back home etc etc etc. More women poured in later in the evening as we sat in a still, breeze-less, humid, candle-lit night inside the small room. I remember one of the ladies even came quite late in the night, when I was in semi-sleep to see what a sleeping bag is like - how does it work. I am sure this Mallu family got more visitors that evening than many months put together. I also realised that they were enjoying the importance they were getting from all their envious neighbours, flaunting the chance visit of this speciman from Mars that had suddenly appeared on their veranda that evening! :)
In the morning I was given a warm farewell, some of the aunties I was now familiar with also came, contact numbers were exchanged and I was given a plastic bag full of guavas and bananas from their garden. The lady came with me to drop me off at the forest cottage, I looked back to see her daughters Soumya, Sindhu and Gobiga(Gopika). In a sense, I was happy to be getting out of there - it was suffocating being surrounded by all these women, being watched and being discussed - and yet somehow, the 'stay' at this Mallu home has touched me somewhere and has become a part of my experience.
The house and it's inhabitants
Gobiga
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